Trauma Awareness Matrix Chart

Definitions with Examples of Trauma Characteristics and 40+ Traumas

Trauam Matrix Chart
Trauma Characteristics – Age: Effects on Individual based on the age at which Trauma is experienced
TRAUMA CHARACTERSITCS – “CAUSE”: Classification of traumatic stressors based on Human or Natural causes
TRAUMA CHARACTERSITCS – “EVENT” : Classification of traumatic events based on the magnitude of individual event
KIRA’S CLASSIFICATION I: Classification of traumatic events according to its impact on area of individual functioning
KIRA’S CLASSIFICATION II: Classification based on Objective or External Characteristics of the Traumatic Event
KIRA’S CLASSIFICATION II: Classification based on Objective or External Characteristics of the Traumatic Event
KIRA’S CLASSIFICATION II: Classification based on Objective or External Characteristics of the Traumatic Event
KIRA’S CLASSIFICATION II: Classification based on Objective or External Characteristics of the Traumatic Event
KIRA’S CLASSIFICATION II: Classification based on Objective or External Characteristics of the Traumatic Event

The Trauma Show

Healing from Childhood Trauma – A PORTAL OPENING to emotional and genuine spiritual transformation

The Truman Show Analogy
Shattering of the assumptive world
Reacognition and Wisdom
Post-Traumatic Growth

Read an introspective self-talk of one Mr True Man recovering from childhood trauma, condensed into three fundamental questions, partly inspired by my realizations across over a decade long healing journey including somatic based therapy and spirituality.

I hope you enjoy and find some inspiration from this coming together of my love for art, movies, spirituality and psychology.

I watched the movie “The Truman Show” almost two decades ago and it still continues to be a dear one as much as is Jim Carrey and his inspiring spiritual growth. The large reality show studio in the movie is a great parallel to the mentally limiting beliefs and world view that survivors of childhood trauma tend to build. The inner critic and a damaged nervous system continue to reinforces the false beliefs of danger lurking around long after the actual danger has passed.

Diagnosis and Therapy followed by an existential quest can lead to the unveiling of reality. Once we start seeing things for what they really are – objectively, having seen the rock bottom the only place to go is up, inching towards a richer experience of life. Openness can pave the path to self discovery and more meaning in life when the limiting beliefs are shattered one after another and the expansion of the nervous system ‘window of tolerance’ makes room for treading cautiously towards uncharted territories not the ones needing you to fit in better, but on the contrary the ones that makes you feel good.

There are a bunch of other factors beyond just having the courage and the will to heal and all of them have to favorably fall in place for healing and growth to happen. The intent here is to offer hope and optimism that healing and growth is possible.

Though all the studies about Post-Traumatic Growth appear to be about shock trauma or traumatic events, I could see some relation to Childhood Trauma.

Happy Healing and Growth Journey !

Vagus Nerve Stimulation Practices



The 4F Trauma Personality Types and Recovery

Based on Pete Walker’s model in the book “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving”

The 4F Trauma Personality Type
The 4F Trauma Personality Types (another visual representation)
4F Trauma Personality Types Continuum
Recovery from the Polarized 4F Trauma Personality Types
Relationship Recovery from the 4F Trauma Personality Types

Nurturance through Connection (Love) and Safety (Physical and Emotional) are the primary building blocks of the mental health for a child. However when these two are denied, provided inadequately or with inappropriate limits in childhood, the brain starts to get wired with a predominant focus to avoid the pain of abandonment from the inadequate nurturing connection and the physical/emotional pain imminent from abuse. The adult’s personality as viewed in the context of these two dimensions of “Connection Approach” and “Safety Approach”, reveals a lot about how the personality has shaped around the unconscious beliefs, developed in childhood, though much of which may not be valid in the adult’s environment.

Based on his observations through his years of professional practice and his own childhood trauma recovery journey, Pete Walker has provided a detailed analysis of the four personality types shaped based on the 4F responses available in the child’s environment. He has also provided helpful tips on the approach to recovery for each of the polarized 4F types. This can be a very useful tool for childhood trauma survivors to understand the source of their own behaviour and to start taking effective steps towards recovery. I think that my two years of focused Somatic Experiencing Therapy has yielded more results in healing as compared to the 8 years of a spiritual journey I pursued before the diagnosis. So the diagnosis was an extremely important step in my recovery journey essentially because it narrowed down my area of focus and I could then discover exactly what recovery processes I should enlist myself to rather than continue my devout but hit or miss undertakings. This subdivision of 4F Trauma Personality Types is, on the same note, a further narrowing down of the focus area. This can be a significant help in making conscious choices, for example, to ignore the generic healing resources popping up in our social media feed.

Pete Walker has also suggested the cartoon characters which can be most closely related to the 4F types in his book. I took the liberty of using Olaf (for Freeze) from the movie Frozen which appears to have released just a few weeks before the release of Pete Walker’s book “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA”.

The Fawn (or Please) response type is not part of the traditional Fight Flight or Freeze stress response types, but an important response type neccessary to explain the personality traits childhood trauma survivors gravitate towards when only compliance can fetch a few crumbs of relating from their care-givers.

There are a few pure types with one predominant style and most other survivors are hybrids of the 4Fs. I have, very similar to Pete Walker, the FLIGHT trauma 4F style as my predominant type. I have a secondary back up style of FAWN which I employ for selective people in authority positions or as a measure of recovery when a close person is upset with me. My inner critic has kept me too focused on performance at work to continue to feel worthy for most of my adult life. I experienced obsessive thinking (left brain dissociation) every time there was a real or percieved threat of disapproval from the authority figures at work. For a large part of my life I have been inclined to compulsively pursue new hobbies every six months to which some of my college friends still ask me – which “Avatar” are you in this semester ?

There are similarities to this model with the “People (Social) Styles at Work” model explained in the book by Dorothy Bolton and Robert Bolton. The Social Styles model is based on the two externally visible behaviorial dimensions of and “Responsiveness” (to connection with people) and “Assertiveness” (in the face of external stress/threat). My employer uses this model extensively to understand clients and also to promote harmonious working relationships. This model was my primary inspiration behind these 4F type graphics. I also came across a DISC model which I am unfamiliar with, however I used it as inspiration to improve the visual appeal for one of the graphic representations in my compulsive (FLIGHT) efforts for perfection.

While it is not necessary or even possible with ordinary efforts to completely change the personality type, there is really nothing right or wrong with each of the types. It takes all kinds to fill the world.
Each of these trauma personality types is on a continuum that runs from mild to extreme. Each of the styles have their own merits which can help individuals to be happy and successful. However it is important to learn adaptability (flexing skill) to use other styles/responses and recover from the polarization towards the unhelpful extremes of ones primary 4F styles.

I must also thank Rivka Levy ( for making a graphic out of the 4F Trauma Types which has been very helpful to me and has been the inspiration behind strating to work on these graphics.

I have used the term “Personality Type” in these graphics with the intent to distinguish it from the FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE stress “Response Type” which are available for all human beings. It is not intended to label or box childhood trauma surviors into certain categories. In fact, I have noticed through my past one year of socializing with and being part of support groups that childhood trauma survivors can belong to as many varied personality types as there are.


Sawubona and Inner Child Healing

Sawubona – I see you

The most common greeting in the Zulu tribe is Sawubona. It literally means “I see you, you are important to me and I value you”. It’s a way to make the other person visible and to accept them as they are with their virtues, nuances, and flaws. Zulus have learned how to embrace another person’s soul and how to find and heal other people’s dark corners and wounds. 

What a wonderful way to greet our inner child and our children. Knowing that there is someone in this world, who sees a child so deeply, makes them feel truly visible and worthy. It sows the seeds of self-love. If you feel that there was no one for your inner child, who saw her and embraced her soul, you can start doing it now.